A Controversial Take on Imposter Syndrome
Issue #11: Bi-weekly insights for mothers interested in entrepreneurship
Dear Mums,
You asked me to touch on imposter syndrome, so here I am, ready to give you some insight into how I overcome my internal imposter—and how you can tackle yours too.
Warning: This isn’t going to be a fluffy article that soothes you as a victim. Instead, it’s a much-needed kick up the bum to help you move forward regardless.
Getting Clear on “Imposter Syndrome”
Imposter syndrome is the inner experience of believing you’re not as competent as others perceive you to be. It typically describes those in successful positions who feel they don’t deserve their achievements.
However, the use of the term has broadened to include a more general sense of not feeling "good enough." It’s this expanded interpretation that I’m focusing on today.
Many women, especially mothers, feel they’re not good enough to pursue entrepreneurship for a variety of reasons:
Not educated enough
Lack of a network
Nothing to offer
And so on.
So, What Do We Do About It?
When preparing for this article, I came across many others on the topic of imposter syndrome. While they were well-intentioned, I found many to be counterproductive or even damaging because they didn’t point towards growth.
Often, these articles simply reassure people with phrases like, "No, no, that’s just you being hard on yourself—you are good enough!" While comforting, this kind of messaging can inadvertently miss a valuable opportunity for deeper reflection and personal growth.
One of the more insightful perspectives I found was an episode of the Magical Overthinkers podcast. In it, host
explores whether imposter syndrome is truly a diagnosable “syndrome” and asks thought-provoking questions like, "Is anyone immune to feeling like an imposter?" inviting listeners to consider new angles on imposter syndrome beyond the typical "just believe in yourself" narrative.Which leads me to ask:
What If Imposter Syndrome Isn’t Just a Feeling to Overcome?
What if, instead, it’s a signal—an indicator that action is needed?
Ask yourself:
1. Are you using it as an excuse?
Imposter syndrome can sometimes be a defence mechanism, a way to rationalise inaction or avoid stepping outside of your comfort zone. When you tell yourself, “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t have what it takes,” it can feel like a safe excuse not to pursue that big opportunity, pitch your idea, or expand your business. The underlying fear of failure, rejection, or criticism often masquerades as self-doubt.
Recognising this dynamic is crucial. Ask yourself:
Am I truly lacking, or am I afraid of what might happen if I put myself out there
For mothers juggling multiple responsibilities, this fear can also stem from concerns about the impact of failure, not just on yourself, but on your family.
Whichever way you look at it, you’ll only find out by moving closer to your goals rather than staying stagnant.
2. Do you need to upskill?
Sometimes, that feeling of not being "good enough" is a signal that maybe you need to sharpen your skills or expand your knowledge.
If you’re constantly feeling inadequate, it could be a nudge to invest in your growth. Embrace a mindset of continuous improvement, just being sure to keep moving as you do.
Nothing trumps taking action.
3. Are you on the right path?
It’s also important to consider whether the feelings you’re having are a sign that you’re pursuing a path that isn’t aligned with your true self.
Not every business opportunity or entrepreneurial venture will be the right fit for everyone.
If you constantly feel like an imposter, it might be worth exploring whether the work you’re doing aligns with your values, interests, and strengths.
How I Overcome My Internal Imposter
I take action.
I’ve reframed imposter syndrome as something that isn’t inherently bad. I recognise that it’s in how I choose to interpret and respond to it which matters as that has a direct impact on my life.
I choose to see it as a valuable signal for self-reflection and growth.
Of course, I get nervous when moving towards new ideas or exploring new avenues (like deciding to homeschool my 4-year-old, hiring a part-time nanny for my 14-month-old, all while pivoting my agency—more on all of that soon!). But I’ve learnt that action is the antidote to fear.
The next time you feel like an imposter, consider:
What is this feeling trying to tell me? And more importantly;
What will I do about it?
As you navigate your entrepreneurial journey as a mother, remember that you are allowed to feel uncertain and still move forward.
You don’t need to eliminate self-doubt to take action. In fact, the most courageous thing you can do is act despite it.
Speak soon,
Tasha x